tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075354260507238406.post7091818188482065947..comments2023-05-03T02:43:31.079-06:00Comments on cluttered musings of a mom: Not DoneJennaKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10724959154514125980noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075354260507238406.post-61113912747454401622010-04-16T08:17:51.634-06:002010-04-16T08:17:51.634-06:00Please, feel free to follow along. Thanks for you...Please, feel free to follow along. Thanks for your comments everyone!JennaKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10724959154514125980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075354260507238406.post-60173343054814951442010-04-15T22:28:50.701-06:002010-04-15T22:28:50.701-06:00It took us 8 months with my first one and then the...It took us 8 months with my first one and then the next two came quickly. Now I feel it's time for #4, but #4is taking its sweet sweet time. After a miscarriage my husband says no more, but I just can't let it go. Thanks for sharing this. I have been reading through several of your posts. Mind if I follow along??Evelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10934284613276297721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075354260507238406.post-13912568269071165662010-03-20T15:54:54.198-06:002010-03-20T15:54:54.198-06:00Oh boy, have I ever been there. For me, I face the...Oh boy, have I ever been there. For me, I face the unspoken criticism that I am somehow foolish to have more kids because I have a serious chronic illness. But those feelings and spiritual impressions just can't be denied.<br /><br />After I had been diagnosed with lupus, and Josef was only a few months old, I was told in no uncertain terms that it was extremely dangerous to get pregnant. I desperately wanted another baby, but I was so ill, I really couldn't have had one at that point. Anyhow, I remember the day, I came to terms with my situation. I had to realize that whatever happened, I would have to accept that my family of three boys may have been it. I had to accept it or I would have gone crazy. I prayed a lot and felt peace about it. <br /><br />Years down the road, I was able to have Brooke and now Jonathan.It did take me almost a year to get pregnant with Brooke. <br /><br /> And I long for another baby. We'll see what happens. I have learned that I must stop trying to control everything and find happiness with what I have. That has given me a lot of peace.<br /><br />My hugs and prayers to you.Tiffany Wacaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08224661646987749451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075354260507238406.post-21716012577598321742010-03-16T11:05:44.563-06:002010-03-16T11:05:44.563-06:00I thought you were going to announce that you were...I thought you were going to announce that you were expecting when I read the title and saw the pic. I feel for you. Don't worry about what people think. If you feel your family isn't complete, it's not. Only you and Corey can decide for your family.Devin & Ruthannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14345014689890122270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075354260507238406.post-1871142466642409252010-03-15T19:08:44.966-06:002010-03-15T19:08:44.966-06:00How many to have is such a very personal decision!...How many to have is such a very personal decision! For some people, 2 is great. For others, it's 10. It sure seems like everyone has an opinion on how many everyone else should have. Ultimately, I feel, it's between a husband and wife, and hopefully, the Lord. I've gone back and forth about how many we want. My last pregnancy was rough, and I remember crying to my husband that I would NOT do this again, even though we had discussed the number of 4 since before we got married. However, we have had an experience that leaves us with no doubt that there is another one up there for us. So I will do it again. I dread the pregnancy, but I do get excited about another sweet little face! Honesty, if I didn't have to go through the pregnancy, I'd probably want a dozen! My sister had 5 girls and felt something missing. After a lot of work and $$$, they adopted from Ethiopia. He totally completes their family perfectly. Everyone thought she was crazy, but nobody can picture their family without him now! Wishing you luck with next month's test!Springhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07912952535787322363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075354260507238406.post-69355578776641850622010-03-12T07:50:47.917-07:002010-03-12T07:50:47.917-07:00Hey Jenna! I think that is so so SO wonderful tha...Hey Jenna! I think that is so so SO wonderful that you want another baby! I've been using FAM (Fertility Awareness Method by Toni Weschler) since before I got married. It was an effective birth control and very effective to know when I could get pregnant. I don't know if you've looked into anything like this, but I've had multiple women in all three wards I've been in(while with Adam) ask me for my book and eventually order their own (it is an excellent reference!). I'd be more than willing to mail you my copy with all my charts so far to see if that would help at all.Mama Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06068933848426601767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075354260507238406.post-18358992437020363002010-03-10T22:02:02.150-07:002010-03-10T22:02:02.150-07:00Thank you for your thoughts. I appreciate it.Thank you for your thoughts. I appreciate it.JennaKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10724959154514125980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2075354260507238406.post-31958608576423724452010-03-10T21:39:23.986-07:002010-03-10T21:39:23.986-07:00I know your feelings to a certain extent. It took...I know your feelings to a certain extent. It took us a long time, a miscarriage, and three rounds of fertility treatments to get Max here.<br /><br />I learned a lot through that whole experience, and it was difficult and soul-stretching at times. I know now, without a doubt, that Max came when he needed to. he couldn't have come years earlier when we first started trying, because of so many factors. I can't imagine dealing with all his medical issues when I still had two young girls who weren't yet school age at home. And as much as I was dreading the 5.5 year spacing we have now, it turned out perfectly. I love having older kids with the baby, there was no sibling rivalry, and I love having the whole day with just me and the baby.<br /><br />And from my experience, the doctors won't do a thing for you. They will look at you and say (most likely very condescendingly,) "You have 4 healthy children, you obviously have no problems getting pregnant." I had a really hard time getting anyone to take me seriously, even though I had months of charts and lots of symptoms that there was actually something that was preventing me from getting pregnant.<br /><br />We're at the same point you're talking about as well. I know we need to have another baby, and I'm hoping it's sooner rather than later, but I also don't think we're going to go the fertility treatment route again, especially in the next year or so. It's too expensive and emotionally draining. I know what it's like though to look around the room and wonder who is missing. <br /><br />But no matter what anyone tells you, your feelings are real. The longing to have children is universal, whether you're on your fifth or fifteenth. Having children doesn't diminish your desire for another.<br /><br />Sorry for the book in your comments- it's a topic near and dear.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187291686384680925noreply@blogger.com